Dear Annie: Baby gender reveal event causes lots of drama

Dear Annie: I recently hosted a gender reveal in my home for my daughter and son-in-law’s first child. I invited family and my closest friends to witness this event. My two best friends were there. They drank the entire time. They chose to single out one particular person I invited — and to treat her very rudely.

At the end of the evening, I called these friends out in my kitchen by themselves about the way they treated her. My one friend began to scream and shout and point her finger at me and then proceed to point at the girl and tell her that she doesn’t like her and has never liked her. The reason is that she doesn’t talk to her daughter at work, and apparently, they both work together. I know alcohol played a role in this behavior; however, it’s been two weeks, and neither one of my friends has apologized.

In fact, my friends feel they did nothing wrong and that I disrespected them. I don’t know where to go with this and would welcome your advice. I don’t really feel I owe them any apology for treating someone so disrespectfully in my home, and the fact that they have not apologized truly makes me wonder if they were ever my friends.

— Disappointed Friend

Dear Disappointed Friend: If you don’t feel that you owe them an apology, then you certainly don’t owe them one. You are correct that alcohol probably played a role in their rude behavior. You told them how you felt, and now the ball is in their court, not yours. If they want to come back to you and have a conversation (not necessarily an apology) to talk about where they were coming from, then be open to that.