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An Atlantic Reading List on Modern Dating
By Isabel Fattal,
5 days ago
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As anyone who has dated in the modern age will tell you, there comes a point when the endless swiping and small talk starts to feel like a demoralizing chore. So “some people simply … stop,” my colleague Faith Hill wrote this week. Reporting this article, she “spoke with six people who … still want a relationship—and they wouldn’t refuse if one unfolded naturally—but they’ve cycled between excitement and disappointment too many times to keep trying.”
These people aren’t just quitting dating apps or no longer asking new people out, Faith writes. They’re facing the possibility that they’ll never find the relationship they wanted. That can be painful, “but it can also be helpful,” Faith notes, “allowing people to mourn the future they once expected—and redefine, on their own terms, what a fulfilling life could look like.” Dating doesn’t just take time; wishing for a partner can also take up much of a person’s attention and energy, Faith adds. By giving up on that quest, these people found, space suddenly opened up for the other wondrous parts of life.
On Dating
The People Who Quit Dating
By Faith Hill
Being single can be hard—but the search for love may be harder.
The five years that changed dating : When Tinder became available to all smartphone users in 2013, it ushered in a new era in the history of romance, Ashley Fetters wrote in 2018.
The paradoxes of modern dating : Earlier this year, Faith and Atlantic associate editor Lora Kelley discussed daters’ competing desires for structure and serenity.
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