The Real Differences Between Introverts and Extroverts

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One of the many effects of the COVID-19 pandemic on Americans’ social lives was that it allowed introverts and extroverts to understand each other better. “In ordinary times, American introverts are like cats living in Dogland: underappreciated, uncomfortable, and slightly out of place,” Arthur C. Brooks wrote in 2021. “A side effect of shutting down the world was to turn it into Catland, at least for a little while. That gave the introverts a chance to lord their solitary comfort over the rest of us, for once.”

Each introvert has their own appetite for socializing, and extroverts still need alone time to recharge. Many people also fall somewhere in the middle, just trying to navigate the business of being human. Ultimately, Brooks argues, if introverts and extroverts can learn from one another, both will benefit. Understanding these two types of personalities can help us better understand how personality is formed, and how it changes. Today’s newsletter explores what introvert/extrovert labels can actually tell us about people, and what they can’t explain.

On Introverts and Extroverts

The Nocturnals

By Faith Hill

While most people are fast asleep, some ultra-introverts are going about their lives, reveling in the quiet and solitude. They challenge a core assumption of psychology: that all humans need social connection.

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What Introverts and Extroverts Can Learn From Each Other

By Arthur C. Brooks

Going against your instincts can help make you happier.

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Caring for Your Introvert

By Jonathan Rauch

The habits and needs of a little-understood group ( From 2003 )

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Still Curious?

• Make room, introverts—everyone needs time to recharge. A new study suggests that socializing is always tiring, regardless of personality, Julie Beck wrote in 2016.
• A crucial character trait for happiness : Don’t curb your enthusiasm, Arthur C. Brooks advises.

Other Diversions

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