‘My new roommate's mom has been living with us for a week without my permission’

One individual recently shared their experience dealing with an unexpected and uncomfortable situation involving a new roommate's parent overstaying their welcome .

"I live in a 3-bedroom, 1-bath apartment in NYC," they began, explaining that they and a friend had recently filled a vacant bedroom in their apartment with a new roommate . Everything seemed fine until the day the new roommate moved in . "This new roommate told us via text on the day of her move-in that her mom is staying over for a few days in the apartment to help her unpack," she recounted.

The woman and their friend found the situation a bit odd. "We separately agreed it was a tad bit weird as we never had any of our parents stay overnight in our tiny NYC apartment," they admitted, highlighting the unusual nature of the arrangement .

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As the days passed, the woman grew increasingly anxious. "I asked the new roommate this past Monday for a timeline for how long we can expect her mom to stay with us, and she said 'til Friday," she recalled. Initially, she accepted the situation, figuring she could wait it out. "I was thinking in my head, ah okay… I guess I can let that be something to look forward to."

However, when Friday came and went, the roommate’s mom was still in the apartment. "It is now past Friday, and her mom is still in our apartment," the woman noted, expressing her frustration. What bothered her most was the lack of communication about the extended stay. "She didn’t even communicate about the extension of the overstay."

The woman acknowledged that living in NYC is expensive, and not everyone can afford a hotel. However, the situation was complicated by the fact that the roommate had initially said her mom would be leaving on Friday to stay with family friends. "I communicated with my friend about this, and we agreed that if her mom is still here on Monday, we need to say something to the new roommate about communication and guests staying over," the woman shared.

As they weighed their options, the frustrated woman wondered if their discomfort was justified. "What are your thoughts? Am I crazy to feel uncomfortable about a parent overstaying?" she asked. The woman also pointed out that this situation was particularly challenging because she hadn’t even had the chance to settle in with the new roommate before having to accommodate her parent.

Reddit users chimed in with their comments about the situation.

One social media user wrote: “You are well within your rights to question why she's still there..

I'm sure she's not contributing an extra dollar to cover her mother being a resident. Time to ask what's going on.”

Another person chimed in: “Respectfully I say.... Grow a spine. Talk to your roommate. You should have been communicating this whole time. Learn to be assertive, it will serve you well.”

Someone else penned: There is probably something in your lease about how long guests can stay to avoid illegal tenants that then have to be evicted. In my lease it’s something like two consecutive weeks.”

And another person advised: “Check your lease, some state that guests can not stay for a certain amount of time. If not, then say your landlord noticed/heard about someone staying there longer than agreed.”