Some people will want to have a huge ceremony with as many guests as possible, while others will want to opt for something that only their closest family and friends are invited to. There are even some who don't want a ceremony at all and will get married with no one except their spouse by their side.
No matter what type of wedding you want to have, your decision should be respected - as long as you and your partner are on the same page. The decision shouldn't be swayed by what your family wants, as it's more important that you and your partner enjoy your special day.
One woman, however, has said she doesn't seem to be having that experience with the wedding she is planning with her fiancé - because his family keep trying to get involved to hijack the plans they've made.
The bride said she and her husband-to-be are inviting just 10 people to their wedding as they want it to be as low-key as possible. But the groom's side of the family thinks the couple should have a "big wedding", and his mum, in particular, keeps trying to change their plans to make them more "fancy".
In a post on Reddit , the bride said: "We are inviting 10 people to our elopement/wedding thingy in November on a weekday. We are having a friend officiate a five-minute ceremony, go to lunch, and ta-da, that's it.
"My family took the news well, my partner's family doesn't get it. My mother-in-law wants it to be a big wedding and we already told her no. Now she is trying to make the lunch 'fancy', and she wants to 'call the restaurant to make it a reception'. I'm like, 'NO, THAT IS NOT THE POINT'."
The woman described the situation as a "nightmare" and said she and her fiance are now just considering eloping by themselves without inviting any family or friends to witness it.
Commenters on the post encouraged the woman and her partner to do just that. Many pointed out they can elope and inform their relatives once the marriage has been completed - especially if inviting family is causing too much stress.
One person said: "Elope - alone - on your terms - only what you two want! My husband and I did it, and we have zero regrets. My mum was p***ed, as was his step-mum, but we wanted simple with zero drama."
And another added: "I had a teacher who got married in secret. They informed family and friends 10 years later by sending out cards on their anniversary. It was hilarious. His mother was p***ed though."
My husband and I eloped!It was easier. both sides fighting and wanting this that and the other.low and behold my mother shows up with my half sister and her husband and almost one yearbold!I found out my boss told her when she called my work for whatever frickin' reason! ( before cell phones)Elope, enjoy and I wish you years of happiness.
Maria Woodring Granholm
4h ago
It's YOUR DAY! Since it's a very small wedding change the date and don't tell her. Put her on an info diet. Until she learns to respect the decisions that you and your SO make, she gets no info.
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