Opinion: Are Birthday Dinners Exposing Fake Friendships And Fake People?

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It seems like every seventy-two hours, social media skids into a tizzy over what is appropriate birthday dinner behavior. Birthday dinners have become full-fledged friendship trials — who shows up and how they show up is taking up a chunk of social media discourse. The consequences are real. Not adhering to “birthday dinner etiquette” can get you cut off or slandered. Even fajitas are up for discussion .

One recurring birthday dinner infraction is outdressing the birthday girl. Now, there’s nothing wrong with a dress code. Dress codes can be useful. They help inform guests about what they’re getting into. It is perfectly reasonable to ask your guests to attend a function or occasion dressed to support the vibe you’re curating.

However, you can not dictate that the quality of your friend’s appearance be below a certain standard, and it’s weird that you want to.

Baddie Behavior

Baddies roll in packs. Baddies want their friends to shine. People are allowed to leave their houses looking the way they want without you considering it a personal attack. You should ask yourself why you need your friend to look like a seven so that you feel like a ten.

Now, if your friend is showing up to your birthday dinner, pulling a Chanel Ayan, I can see you approaching that with a slight slide eye. But most people are not pulling up to your special day with a twelve-foot train that’s threatening to trip Andy Cohen. They are just presenting themselves the way they feel comfortable. They’re not actively trying to upstage you.

The way you think your friends are plotting on you makes me wonder why they’re around.

Skirt lengths and arrival times are scrutinized. Lately, even the materials of the guests’ clothing can cause offense. Sequins, feathers, fringe, satin, and tinsel signify a secret hater who has been waiting to upstage you if you let some people tell it. We’ve lost the plot for real.

Hair, Makeup, And Entrees; Oh My!

In a recent post on social media from user Taylor Stevens, aka Taypancakes , the content creator questions if she is wrong for cutting off her homegirl after her homegirl questioned if she planned on getting her makeup done to participate in her birthday dinner. In the video captioned, “birthday dinners always bring out weirdos Am I wrong,” Taylor revealed she got her makeup done for the first time for her own birth shoot and was expressing to her friend how she plans to do it more often. The friend allegedly responded, “I hope you not doing that for my birthday.” According to the unnamed friend Taylor was doing too much and has a history of doing so.

Tay’s followers quickly jumped in her comments section to share their thoughts on the situation. Celebrity stylist Bryon Javar, wrote, “Naw she a weirdo and insecure!!! Gone and book that MUA for what ever! She ate that.” Another wrote, “Its giving she’s a hater . For my birthday I want everyone to EAT! bc I’m not leaving no crumbs lol and I don’t want you to be in any of my pics looking dry .”

People complain about the kind of makeup the guests wear. But a tiny bit of Danessa Myricks highlighter is not a sign that your homegirl is a sneak disser. The problem is that you’re filling these tables with people you don’t trust enough to extend them grace. You don’t really like each other and that’s the problem.

Doing The Most At Your Birthday Dinner Doesn’t Mean Others Have To Do The Least

Anything requiring an elaborate presentation, such as fajitas or a Tomahawk steak reeks of sabotage. A viral Tik Tok user has garnered over 5 million views and 600,000 likes from a user who complained about her boyfriend ordering fajitas on her birthday.

“My bf ordered fajitas at MY birthday dinner,” she wrote. “ON MY BIRTHDAY??? Go ahead the spotlight is yours [I guess].” No one is orderign fajitas to spite you, sis.

If you being the center of attention requires someone else to show up on the struggle bus, you’re not the baddie you think you are. You’re an imposter.

It doesn’t matter what the person next to you has on if you look and feel confident in what you are wearing and who you are.

True main character energy can not be upstaged. It is undeniable. It floats above comparison.

The girls that have it have it and the ones that don’t can’t get it from their friends having less of it.

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