The Strawberry Letter - She Sent Us The Proof

Dear Steve and Shirley,

I've been married for three years, and my husband is a cheater and a liar. A month ago, he received a certified letter, and I signed for it. The letter disappeared, and when I asked him about it, he said it was nothing. Then, I started getting unknown calls, which I thought were spam, so I ignored them. I noticed my husband was getting the same calls from the same number, and he ignored them too.

A couple of weeks ago, my husband ran to the store for me, and he FaceTimed me when he got there. Suddenly, he got distracted and said he had to go. He must have put his phone in his pants pocket because I could hear a woman yelling in the background, and he was telling her to stop following him. When I asked him about it, he said it was a homeless person.

A week later, I found a certified letter in his drawer, and it was a notice for child support. I went off on him, and he finally admitted that he had a one-night stand with a woman right before we met. According to the paperwork, their child is four years old, but my husband's math isn’t adding up because we’ve been together for six years.

I called the strange number on my phone and spoke to the woman. She told me it was much more than a one-night stand. She even sent me an envelope full of greeting cards from him to her, as well as cards from flowers he sent. Some of them were recent, even after we got married. My husband swears she’s lying, even though it’s his handwriting.

This is serious because a child is involved. I know some wives have stayed with their men through far worse, but I don’t know if I can. Should I excuse myself from this marriage and let them live happily ever after?

Please advise.