A woman is seeking advice on how to tell her husband she’s changed her mind about the name of their baby.
She took to Reddit to share the situation. She explained she is currently 10 weeks pregnant and struggling with deciding on a name with her husband.
Before getting pregnant, her husband asked if they could one day name their child after his father. Her husband is also named after his father, so he’s a “Junior” and their new baby will be “the Third.”
She agreed to this prior to getting pregnant. Now that a baby is on the way, she’s changed her mind.
“The problem is my [father-in-law]. I dislike him a great deal. He is loud, opinionated but proudly uninformed, and just a generally disagreeable man,” she explained.
He breaks the rules for his other grandchildren, giving them candy before bed against his own kid’s wishes.
Her father-in-law is also rude to her during her pregnancy. He said she was lazy for taking extra naps, and even said giving birth isn’t as painful as when men get hit in their privates.
She said: “I know my husband loves his father, but I don’t want my FIL thinking that our child is named after him, and frankly I don’t want anymore to do with him then necessary.”
Many commenters reassured her she isn’t wrong for wanting to change the name, especially because it’s still early on in the pregnancy.
One said: “It's understandable that your feelings have evolved now that you're actually pregnant and considering the influence of your FIL's behavior on your decision. It's important to have a name that you're both comfortable with and that doesn't cause you distress.”
“Have an honest conversation with your husband about your concerns and work together to find a name that honors both your wishes and the significance he attaches to naming traditions.”
Another said: “It’s your husband's name just as much as it is his fathers, try to think of him more than the father in law. Ultimately, talk to him about it and see what he has to say, you still have plenty of time!”
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