Your Past Prevents You From Living The Life Of Your Dreams

Will you keep settling for it?

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Throughout these writings, we’ve often stated that living is an active matter. Nature gives us time to rest, but even while we’re asleep, our body is at work, and so are all the other subtler layers that makes us, us.

While there may be times when we do “nothing,” living never stops being about activity. Unfortunately, most people stop being active pretty soon in their lives.

For some, education ends once they’ve graduated or dropped out. For others, work is simply a 9–5 matter. And more importantly, for nearly all human beings, reacting based on our past experiences instead of looking at things more neutrally is “normal.”

How do we grow as a person unless we question those limiting concepts? Isn’t having such a mindset the main reason most human beings barely explore (and actualize) their potential?

We all have free will.

Whether we choose to keep learning after graduation or not, whether we keep working on our projects past 5 pm or not, and whether we refuse to let our past dictate our future or not, the choice is ours.

Most people’s choice is obviously what’s most familiar, what feels secure, what demands the least of their energy. And that’s comprehensible; the only problem is, living according to what we’ve always known will only produce the life we’ve always known, with its same miseries.

But for those who refuse to settle, for those who are constantly haunted by their dreams, by a life they know they can get and deserve to experience — yes, the path might be challenging, but the obsession to get there can’t be gotten rid of.

That’s why they keep trying. That’s why, people’s rejections may hurt at times, but eventually, it doesn’t matter because they remain true to the game.

Throughout these writings, we’ve often discussed about adversity and how our truest battles are fought within.

Whenever you decide to try something new, to explore your potential in more depth, to finally accomplish this goal you’ve dreamed about for years — you are teasing your past.

And how does your past respond to this “teasing”?

It makes you anxious, it creates thoughts such as “Can I do this? I am a fraud. I’ve never done such a thing before. Will people believe me? Do I deserve this person’s money? I have no clue about what I’m doing. I’ll never live up to Bill Gates or Oprah Winfrey. They’re probably magicians who simply waive their hands and have the world’s acclamation…”

This is the past’s insecurity.

You’ve never done such a thing before, the new feels scary. Your past would rather have you as you’ve always been. Even if it means settling for a mediocre existence, one that is devoid of learning and growth.

But you’re stronger than that.

Yes, whenever you offered a stranger one of your services, you may have felt anxious about it. You were okay no one replied to your emails. At least you tried... But then, some day, someone finally shows some interest in your offers, and you’re taken over by a fear you couldn’t believe existed in your subconscious.

That’s the tipping point.

Your past will tell you to sabotage everything you’ve worked so hard for. You’d rather not reply and let it fly. So you stay there, unable to sleep at night because you can’t stop yourself from trying once again, from transcending the fear, and reply to that email, and move to the next step — which is probably going to be even scarier for your past; but, you can’t help it, you want it real bad.

Throughout these writings, we’ve often discussed how our past experiences created limitations in our thinking. These limits are “triggers,” and when we try things that push us out of our comfort zone, the limits of fears, anxiety, and sometimes even illnesses are triggered to prevent us from trying something new.

Still doing so, still trying, still going beyond those limitations — that’s the only fight that matters. We are our own adversary. And because we know deep inside we deserve to create the life of our dreams, regardless of what people say or think — regardless of what we think — is the only thing that matters.

We weren’t meant to live a limited existence. We weren’t meant to settle for what we’ve been given. We weren’t meant to lead a mechanical existence of repetition and boredom.

No.

We were meant to explore possibilities. Routines help us integrate the lessons we learn from exploring possibilities. And possibilities keep us going, reaching out for more and more of what Life has to offer either here on Earth, or everywhere else.

The choice is always yours.

You know what you deserve.

What will you do now?

As a final note.

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