Dating apps can be intimidating and scary. You might not know what to say, how to approach someone, or the best ‘pick up’ line to break the ice. But, the good thing is that everybody is apprehensive when meeting a potential partner online. Just being yourself, being friendly, and acting genuinely interested in another person can be all that it takes to spark up a meaningful conversation.
But, if you are stressed about the best ways to send a message without coming across as too forward or even uninterested, there are a few things to keep in mind. We have a few tips and tricks that can help you fight off the first-message nerves and strike up a bond with someone that you may have never seen coming.
First Dating App Message
Whether you're looking for a weekend fling or a long-term romance, choosing the right type of first message is what sets the tone for your interactions. You want to make sure that you use your personality, act interested, and come across as genuine in the first message that you send to a woman to express your interest.
Firstly, we recommend switching up the introduction and the ‘pick up’ line to something more genuine. People are able to tell if you send the same generic message to all the girls you are speaking to on dating apps. Trey and say something that references one of their photos, hobbies, likes/dislikes, or bio information.
Secondly, keep the message short, sweet, and exciting. Don’t type a huge paragraph in the first message, or people will often get overstimulated and never respond. Also, too short of a message can be boring. Find the sweet spot of 1-2 lines that pique the woman’s interest without driving them away to another dating app.
Thirdly, build up a rapport and have a conversation first before asking a woman on a date. Women will not want to go on a date with someone they don’t even know, especially if they met online. Establish trust, tell her a little about yourself, and make her comfortable speaking to you before asking to meet in real life.
Keep it PG
In a similar sense, don’t go right into the dating apps to only ask to meet up to have sex. Women will be immediately turned off and probably never respond to your message. If a relationship heads in that direction, that’s one thing, but starting off a conversation by asking to meet up without getting to know the women is a huge red flag.
Best Dating App
There are a few different dating apps you can try to see if you may have better luck. One of the most popular apps that has been around for the longest time is Tinder. Tinder seems to have somewhat moved more towards the ‘hookup culture.' It can, however, still be useful to find dates, talk to women, and potentially find the love of your life.
Other popular dating apps that have used a twist on the traditional model include Hinge and Bumble. Bumble allows the woman to send the first message, which is great for showing genuine interest in you and it takes the pressure of first messages away. Make sure you respond with an honest, creative, and interesting message to get a response back from them. At the same time, Hinge is great for finding out more about the woman, including her likes/dislikes, hobbies, and other interesting facts that you might not find in a Tinder bio.
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